It was very hard to get ready for this visit. I could not decide what toys to bring so I brought a lot of them and let the boys pick out what they wanted to play with which meant everything.
I picked up both boys as normal and they both were very excited and happy to see me. Neither boy liked waiting for Maxx to get changed. Ty kept trying to peek into his changing room.
We had our normal snacks of bananas, yogurt and cereal pieces. I showed Ty how I could throw a piece of cereal in the air and catch it in my mouth to eat it. He tried only once as he threw the cereal behind him and couldn't find it.
Most of the photos are of the boys playing with Maxx's juice and cereal bowl. It is very hard to get photos of them together and looking at the camera. I brought them cherry juice and decided I was not going to worry if they spilled or made a mess. I felt sorry for them as they don't get to put vokda in their cherry juice like their Mommy. When we first started bonding, Ty was the one who enjoyed pouring his juice into the bowl and making the mess.
I have joked a few times that I learned some things about parenting from Ace and today was a good example. Usually, dog owners are told not to make a big deal about leaving because it will cause anxiety for the dog. I decided some of that would hold true for the boys so after snacks I decided to tell Ty (Maxx wouldn't pay attention) that this would be the last time we would be playing together for a while. He looked heartbroken. I then told him I had to take a long trip to see Daddy but Daddy will come back with me so we could all play. I told him it would be several weeks but I don't know if he understands the concept of time. He did not seem to be concerned about it anymore.
We then did our usual playing and made a big mess of all the toys. There was a new, lower crib in the bonding room and Ty got out the babydoll and put her to bed with some toys. Both boys really enjoy playing Daddy for the doll.
Of course we had to have a bathroom visit and Maxx is definitely not afraid of the bathroom anymore. This time he learned more about how an echo works and that if he pounds on the door he can hear the echo. I have to hold Ty up to the sink to wash his hands and he loves to splash his face and drink under the faucet. I let Maxx do this today also.
Towards the end of the visit, the adoption coordinator came by to discuss some of the discussions we had with our adoption agency and the country coodinator (obviously no one is happy right now and there is a lot of fingerpointing between all parties). I told her that I was not interested in re-hashing the topic during my last 20 minutes with the boys. She still tried to push a conversation as I was playing with the boys. The boys decided it was fun to get louder everytime the adoption coordinator spoke. They would just laugh and this forced the coordinator and the translator to speak even louder which made the boys laugh even louder. I was glad the boys decided to act up as I said I didn't want to have the conversation at that time. They knew this time was to be about them.
I took the boys back to their rooms as we have done for the past few weeks.
I am supposed to get updates from the translator on the boys. Our friends are still staying in Taraz and they told me they will also keep an eye out for the boys and send us photos.
I will pass them along as we get them.
Marcia
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